ok ill just rughly sum up abt me and dis girl

we go out often and behave like couple, she told me that she is open and has many exflings but wans to get into a serious relationship nw, she told me that im special to her or whatever shit.

but on nat day, she went out with her friends to celebrate birthday for her friend, my guess is that many guys tried to hit on her that night through how she described to me the session.

in some pictures, she was pretty close with this guy, close as in hands around waist? i mean, i dont know what she calls me, her bf or whatever. but i find it offensive how come he has his arms around her waist?! come on, shoulder is okay but this?

then i asked her show me some other pics of the night, she dont want saying its too wild.

wtf?

maybe da kind of "wild" is not as wad u think? wild can be defined in many kinds of situation.. maybe she took pictures wib da birthday boy/gal 's face being smashed by cakes of chocolate flavour???

Cabriolet,

Then what is it you want to see ?

A cage surrounding her with spikes ?

C'mon lah. It's not like she lets the guys grope her boobs.

Besides.. she's not even attached.

Are you jealous because you don't get to put your hands on her waist.. while some other guys are able to do it ?

If it's just out of some clean fun and posing for the camera.. what's the big deal.

Unless she is already your gf. then you should be alarmed.

Right now.. you should focus on working your part of the deal.

Originally posted by jojobeach:

Cabriolet,

Then what is it you want to see ?

A cage surrounding her with spikes ?

C'mon lah. It's not like she lets the guys grope her boobs.

Besides.. she's not even attached.

Are you jealous because you don't get to put your hands on her waist.. while some other guys are able to do it ?

If it's just out of some clean fun and posing for the camera.. what's the big deal.

Unless she is already your gf. then you should be alarmed.

Right now.. you should focus on working your part of the deal.

 

i'd rather not.

Originally posted by CasperV:

i'd rather not.

Well.. if TS thinks she's too hard to handle... then forget the whole ordeal.

If he likes her.. he can bitch all he wants , ain't gonna change anything.. she's not even his gf yet.

Dont u have other girls to chose from ?

Dun want show u pics cause.. its too 'wild' . U know where ur place is la ya. haaha .

oh.. i forgot to answer ur question.

Yes.. she playing ur balls. lol

woots shes a player dude.. set ur tolerance level.. cant take it? move on.. not simple i know but logical..

clearly, she is still enjoying the company of having many guys around her and is not adamant on settling down yet. so you shud just scoot off.

If u game enough jusr play along with her lor.... this kind of girl are common lar... the word she said do to match to her heart. I can tell through experience one... so play along dude..

But if u found the right one.. be sharp to know it and go serious with her.. don't delay anymore.

if u cannot take it now, next time i guess it surely be worst.

You dont have a name to her yet, and her waist give other guys grab, is also quite common? As she didnt make a choice yet. If she's your GF, u can have something to say, but sadly to say, you are not.

From what you said, she's quite OPEN and FRIENDLY i guess? Dont be too alarm if she do something similar even after acknolwdge you as her bf. As you said she's have many ex.flings.

Girls that are like this, hard to stay "decent" actions to guys (: but they mean no harm, maybe is their way of thinking or playing? =)

Originally posted by Cabriolet:

ok ill just rughly sum up abt me and dis girl

we go out often and behave like couple, she told me that she is open and has many exflings but wans to get into a serious relationship nw, she told me that im special to her or whatever shit.

but on nat day, she went out with her friends to celebrate birthday for her friend, my guess is that many guys tried to hit on her that night through how she described to me the session.

in some pictures, she was pretty close with this guy, close as in hands around waist? i mean, i dont know what she calls me, her bf or whatever. but i find it offensive how come he has his arms around her waist?! come on, shoulder is okay but this?

then i asked her show me some other pics of the night, she dont want saying its too wild.

wtf?

wild as in...

1. play the game of 1 minutes frenching?

2. drink chocolate/wine off the girl's cleavage?

3. racy photos?


u also bodoh leh... u should go with her... give excuse like, 'come on, introduce me to ur friends. i'll show u my friends in our next meeting...'

Do you love me?
Or am I just another trip in this strange relationship?
You push and pull me, yeah
And I'm about to lose my mind
Is this just a waste of time?
Keep acting like you own me,
I keep running, watch me walking out that door
I hear you behind me

Give me that strange relationship
Never felt pleasure and pain like this
Something so right, but it feels so terribly wrong
I keep holding on
Give me that strange relationship
One of us gotta let go of this
I keep pushing and you keep holding on
I'm already gone

Do you love me? (yeah)
We break up and back together
And I swore to myself never
But oh, how you do me, yeah
You stripped me of my honor
And I don't ever think I'm gonna
Break free of these mind games
Well, all I'm tryin' to do is modify my plan
'Cause I can't contain you

Give me that strange relationship
Never felt pleasure and pain like this
Something so right but it feels so terribly wrong
I keep holding on
Give me that strange relationship
One of us gotta let go of this
I keep pushing and you keep holding on
I'm already gone

You keep acting like you own me
Like you control me
You said you never really wanted me back
Well maybe that's a fact
May I suggest
A brand new plan of attack?
And in defense of that you're hard to crack
You're way off track
I want you back, I want you gone
Maybe I'm sick of holding on

Do you love me? (yeah)
Or am I just another trip in this strange relationship?

Give me that strange relationship
Never felt pleasure and pain like this
Something so right but it feels so terribly wrong
I keep holding on
Give me that strange relationship
One of us gotta let go of this
I keep pushing and you keep holding on
I'm already gone (x3)

I'm already gone
I'm gone


Strange Relationship Lyrics
Artist(Band):Darren Hayes going solo after Savage Garden

Originally posted by Cabriolet:

ok ill just rughly sum up abt me and dis girl

we go out often and behave like couple, she told me that she is open and has many exflings but wans to get into a serious relationship nw, she told me that im special to her or whatever shit.

but on nat day, she went out with her friends to celebrate birthday for her friend, my guess is that many guys tried to hit on her that night through how she described to me the session.

in some pictures, she was pretty close with this guy, close as in hands around waist? i mean, i dont know what she calls me, her bf or whatever. but i find it offensive how come he has his arms around her waist?! come on, shoulder is okay but this?

then i asked her show me some other pics of the night, she dont want saying its too wild.

wtf?

She's too open-minded for you lah.

I got a colleague went diving with her fiance (don't know how to spell haha), she took one pic with her instructor his his hand around her back and his fingers almost touching the under side of her boobs lor...

Then how?

lol

she isn't respecting you, neither is the guy?

ts i like your nick

btw, hv u made it official with her?

How old are the 2 of you?

16?  Still young, already so havoc.

21? All adults, can do whatever you all want.

30? CB, so old still do these kind of things.

40? These are things your kids might be doing.  Not you.

Originally posted by Cabriolet:

ok ill just rughly sum up abt me and dis girl

we go out often and behave like couple, she told me that she is open and has many exflings but wans to get into a serious relationship nw, she told me that im special to her or whatever shit.

but on nat day, she went out with her friends to celebrate birthday for her friend, my guess is that many guys tried to hit on her that night through how she described to me the session.

in some pictures, she was pretty close with this guy, close as in hands around waist? i mean, i dont know what she calls me, her bf or whatever. but i find it offensive how come he has his arms around her waist?! come on, shoulder is okay but this?

then i asked her show me some other pics of the night, she dont want saying its too wild.

wtf?

she is obviously not interested in U...

U can take it...stay...

U cant take it...then go.

no need to be unhappy one.

i don't tink u shld take up this r/s, if u can't even tolerate her "loose" behaviour now, I doubt u can in future ==> she is not yr type

Originally posted by 00king00:

i don't tink u shld take up this r/s, if u can't even tolerate her "loose" behaviour now, I doubt u can in future ==> she is not yr type

yup... had a few (too many) flings b4...

by the time u can bed her with commitment assured, her down there is already "loose" too.... for ur consumption...

Originally posted by charlize:

How old are the 2 of you?

 

16?  Still young, already so havoc.

 

21? All adults, can do whatever you all want.

 

30? CB, so old still do these kind of things.

 

40? These are things your kids might be doing.  Not you.

i guess you're feeling confuse because you are not sure what you want?

and then along comes this girl who tells you you are special but is "friendly" and open to conquest.

Let me guess, you seldom chase after other girls?

Perhaps it might be a good thing to quiet down your mind and ask yourself what you truly want. There might be issues of insecurity that one may sometimes overlook and needs to be address before one can move on to settle down in a stable relationship. And tell yourself that it is ok to admire someone and not have your affections return. However a true relationship of course needs to be 2-way in order to be carried on as a true relationship.

And any relationship BASED on jealousy and insecurity is a sure recipe for disaster in future. If you cannot afford to get close to a girl whom you are not sure you are capable of loving and who cannot give you the security you need, I say curtail it and save yourself all that pointless agony. However, if you are sure that she is the girl for you, I say go all out for her regardless of the outcome.

Before that however, know what you truly want and do not want. There is a price to pay for everything.

Pardon me... in view of your thread title "Getting played?"...

are you trying to play around too?

As I've said, the only way out of this predicament is to be very sure of what you DO want and what you do NOT want. If there are behaviour which you would despise yourself in others, make sure you do not repeat them in your very own actions to those girls too.

Perhaps you may want to try date around, as in casual dating or meet-up with other girls instead of focussing on this girl who told you "im special to her". You may realize that there are more girls who are more special to you than her than you might have realized.

Once you've brushed up your social etiquette with girls by mixing around more, you may then start to truly prepped yourself for "The One". Perhaps the time has yet to come.